Boost your social skills this summer.

At work or in your free time, summer is full of opportunities to meet new people.

Social intelligence

Starting and maintaining conversations with strangers puts your social intelligence to work. It rests on three pillars: observation, empathy, and authenticity. Mastering these not only helps you connect, it also builds credibility.

Beyond the classic weather talk (a favourite in Quebec), finding topics shows genuine interest in others. Still, breaking the ice can feel awkward when shyness creeps in.

A touch of humour

Fear of judgment and lack of confidence can block free-flowing conversation. We censor ourselves, second-guess our social skills, and replay our words: “Why did I say that?”

Humour helps break down barriers. A light joke or a bit of self-deprecation eases tension, sparks closeness, and lowers stress. You’ll show your brighter side. Stay present, stay grounded, and smile; it’s one of the strongest tools you have to show you’re at ease.

The open question

Instead of asking someone if they’ve ever travelled, ask them: “What trips have had the greatest impact on you?”

This kind of question invites people to open up, share their perspective, and expand their thoughts. As you listen with focus, their interest in the conversation will naturally grow.

Topics to avoid

Pick subjects you care about and can easily expand on. Steer clear of sensitive issues like religion or politics, which can create discomfort or even spark heated reactions.

Finally, ask yourself: “Which version of me do I want to share?” Step forward. The world is full of connections waiting to happen. Some might change your summer, or even your life.

“If the weather never changed, half the men would have no subject of conversation.”
— Jules Renard

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